I read about this in another blog, this woman's work and could hardly believe my eyes. NBC and Teleflora with the Celebrity backing of Donny and Marie Osmond were promoting an "America's Favorite Moms" contest. I am a little late to this issue- it must be that rock I've been under, anyway, they had 5 categories of moms for you to choose from to make your nomination. Military Moms, Working Moms, Single Moms, Non-Moms and CEO "Chairman of Everything" Moms. Uh, wait a minute, go back a second what was sandwiched in that list of moms? Who are they calling NON-MOMS? Grandparents, Stepmoms and Adoptive moms? Are you kidding me!!! You have got to be kidding, but no it is true - somehow the big out of touch marketers who form public opinion with their assaultive advertising are calling adoptive mothers let alone step mothers and primary care grandparents NON-MOMS! What does that do to the kids - are they non children because they are being raised my non parents?
I am spending all this time, money, emotion, planning ... I am working to alter my life into that of a care giver, consoler, supporter, protector ... I have dreams to show a child the joys, beauty, and wonder of the world so that I can become a NON-MOM!
Well NBC responded to the outcry and changed the category to "the Adopting Mom". Gee, thanks guys. Because we are not working moms or military moms or single moms or CEO moms (who cant even be called a "chairwoman" on a holiday celebrating women). I am always telling Steve that I never want to be called a Soccer Mom because I hate it, well thanks to NBC there is something worse. All the categories suck! Why couldn't mothers just be nominated. I am sure there are no military moms out there who are working and certainly they are not the CEO of everything - she would have to be especially if she's home while a spouse is in a war, or maybe she has been made single by the war ... How about a category for artificially inseminated moms, fertility druged up moms or moms who have had children via embryo sorting/gender selection? Why is my route to parenthood need to be aired as something that doesn't make me a mom? I could go on but I'll stop because I think you are catching my drift.
An adoptive mother could fit into anyone of those categories but adoption trumps all I guess. The pervasive subversive anti adoption sentiment out there in the world is driving me crazy and thanks to the media drenched society we live in it ain't getting much better. And our kids these sweet children who have rarely had a choice in the matter are continually reminded that they are somehow not just children but they are adopted children.
I won't be giving birth to my child and yes that makes me less of a woman and certainly not a mom.
I certainly won't be sending any bouquets to my mom via Teleflora today or ever.
More comments on this lovely little brain child of NBC's to come I have to stop for now I need to go paint the bedroom for my little non-child I am waiting endlessly for.